Know sexy dreams meaning to rule your life
Ever wondered where a sexy dreams of yours came from? You wake up thinking, “Wow, that was hot – but, crikey, what on earth did it mean?” It might be you dreamt of having passionate sex with a woman when you’re not lesbian or didn’t think you were bi-curious. Or you dreamt of sleeping with someone at work that you’ve never, ever fancied – in fact quite the opposite – finding them really unattractive.
There’s usually a hidden symbol or symbols in such sexy dreams that your subconscious mind wants you to take note of. But sometimes your sexy dreams make complete sense because you’re dreaming of the boyfriend you love, or your favourite soap or pop star that you find completely fanciable.
Why Do You Dream?
Just as good quality sleep helps you recharge yourself physically, your sexy dreams recharge you emotionally. That’s because during the dream stage of sleep – called REM stage sleep for rapid eye movement – the limbic system of your brain goes into free fall. The limbic system is responsible for our most powerful emotions and it literally has a clean-out during our dreaming.
Sometimes it throws up sexy dreams that make complete sense. At other times it throws up sexy dreams images that are both surprising and even shocking – like having sex with the boss who has just told you off that day. This is because your mind wants to slowly unveil and unwrap the things you feel and think. It offers-up these images that make you question your sexy dreams. That means you start a bit of self analysis which can be a very good thing.
How Can You Begin to Interpret Your Dreams?
Think carefully about your sexy dreams images and they can make sense. To help you decipher your dreams I’ve formulated the Dream (D.R.E.A.M.) Key technique:
D is for detail: think about which detail stood out most in your dream? Let’s say there were snake- like things writhing all around you. They made you feel sexy. In a sexy dreams like this, such detail can represent you longing for sex. The writhing snake-like things represent your inner desires to have a man in your life.
R is for recognition: is there anything recognisable in your dream? Think through the dream images and whether your sexy dreams were set somewhere recognisable or featured someone you knew. The more recognisable features there are in your dream, the more it’s based in reality. The less recognisable, the more your sleeping mind is trying to slowly reveal a message to you. And so it uses ‘veiled’ or unrecognisable symbolism to break a message slowly and subtly to you.
E is for emotion: think back to how you felt when you woke up and what was the most powerful emotion in your dream? Did you feel sexual excitement, anxiety, fulfilment, etc.? That’s important as a guide to what your mind is trying to tell you. Let’s say you’re having sex in the sexy dreams, and you feel very anxious during the sex, that means your subconscious mind’s trying to tell you that you need to face any inhibitions you might have.
A is for action/inaction: recall whether you’re the one leading the action in your sexy dreams or if you’re a passive observer – maybe watching someone else have sex. If you’re an active participant in what’s happening, it reveals that you want to assert yourself or recognise something about yourself – like recognising that you’d quite like to experiment more in bed. If you’re passively watching other people do sexual things it symbolises that you’re probably lacking sexual confidence or feel you on the “outside” in a sexual relationship.
M is for meaning: finally if you think carefully about your dream can you guess the meaning? Since our dreams are there to help us understand more about our deeper emotions sometimes examining them reveals their meaning to our lives. So relax, think back to your dream, and be open-minded about what the symbolism from your sleeping mind was trying to tell you.
Three Of the Most Common Sex Dreams and What They Really Mean:
1/ Having Hot Ex-Sex: it can be a big worry when you dream of having hot sex with your Ex-Partner. Especially if you’re with someone new it can cause anxiety. I can reassure you that dreaming of sex with your Ex is a really common sexy dreams.
A Typical Dream Scenario: You dream that you’re having passionate sex with your Ex – usually in the same way – doing the same things -you would’ve done when together as if nothing has changed. If you’re in a new relationship your new partner, or someone else, might walk in on you two in bed.
The Hidden Meaning: Trust me, such sexy dreams don’t necessarily mean you actually want sex with your Ex. These dream symbols usually mean you longing for something that you feel comfortable with and that’s familiar to you. It might be that you feel a bit insecure in your new relationship so your sleeping mind takes you back to a time when you were comfortable.
If your new partner, or someone else, discovers you having sex with your Ex is usually a sign from your subconscious mind signalling that you need to sort out how you feel in your new relationship. And that you probably have some mixed feelings about it.
Dreams of sex with your Ex spell danger if you keep dreaming about them. Recurring sexy dreams about them symbolises that you’re not over your Ex or that sex with your new partner isn’t as good as with your Ex.
2/Having Sex With Someone of the Same Sex When You’re Not Gay: dreaming that you’re having sizzling sex with someone of your sex doesn’t necessarily mean you’re bi-curious. You might think it’s extremely bizarre but believe me it’s common. Men in particular get anxious when they’ve dreamt about having sex with another man as they think it reflects on their sexuality – but this usually isn’t the case.
A Typical Dream Scenario: Very often this type of sexy dreams occurs somewhere you don’t recognise – they’re usually not set in your own bedroom or home. You’re also likely to dream that you’re the passive participant and it’s the other person that is in charge of the sex.
The Hidden Meaning: Such sex dreams are more about emotional and intimate curiosity, generally, then a desire to try gay sex. It’s one way for your subconscious mind to allow you ‘let go’ and do something that’s new. That’s the reason why the setting is somewhere unknown as your sleeping mind’s hinting that you need to experiment more – get out and do something different! Often the hidden meaning is about being less inhibited in the bedroom.
But, again, if this is a recurrent sexy dreams theme then it’s very likely deep-down you’re bi-curious and you’d like to experiment with someone of the same sex.
3/ Sex With a Boss/Colleague That You Don’t Like/Fancy: having a sexy dream like this can completely mystify you. You wonder why you’d dream about having raunchy sex with a boss or someone else you don’t like?
A Typical Dream Scenario: You probably find yourself in this person’s office or in your office having sex. Often it’s likely and activesex and you end up on the desk, on the floor, or basically all over the place.
The Hidden Meaning: When you dream of sex with someone you don’t like it’s usually your subconscious mind telling you that you need to take control of the situation. These sexy dreams are more about a ‘power struggle’ and less likely to be about actual sex. In your sexy dream life your sleeping mind gives you that control by having passionate sex with the person but crucially in the way you want it.
But if you’re not enjoying the sex with this person it’s a big symbol that you really don’t know how to handle things with them – whoever they are in your life.
Tags: interpretation, meaning, passionate sex, sexy dreams, sleep
robert…
excelent post, keep it coming…