Bad Sexual Chemistry Is a Relationship Dealbreaker
Many women (and some men, too) fall in love and think they can “fix” the person they’re with. He may have bad hair, she may smoke, he could snore at night or wear the wrong clothing. Most of these problems can be dealt with, but there some that cannot and sexual chemistry is the biggest.
A recent letter to The Daily Mail relationship expert asks this very question: Can a relationship survive when you have everything in place but the good sex? The answer, sadly, is a resounding no. If the sex is bad, the relationship must end.
Oh I know. I can hear the groaning from here. But the answer holds firm. Try as you might to believe otherwise, sexual chemistry is an absolute deal-breaker in a relationship. It may seem shallow, but it really isn’t. (more…)
Is Sex Addiction Real in Your Dreams
After surrendering their vibrators and porno DVDs, the stars of VH1′s “Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew” have chain-smoked their way through three long, sexless weeks of treatment. The motley crew of pseudo-celebrities — including a porn star, a beauty queen and an obscure rock musician — have stripped their emotions bare in nationally broadcast group therapy, tearfully sharing stories of past abuse, anonymous sex, hours upon hours of smut surfing and, above all else, consuming shame. But here’s a question that the show, which ended its first season Sunday night, never bothered to ask: Are these people really addicts?
Since the term was coined in 1983, “sex addiction” has become so embroidered in our self-help vocabulary that most of us stopped questioning it. The term gets bandied about whenever Bill Clinton logs extracurricular time with an intern or Eliot Spitzer gets caught having sex in his socks or David Duchovny separates from his wife. (more…)
The Worst Reasons to Have Sexual Intercourse
Let’s be real, girls. For women, sex is almost always more than just a physical craving. It could be a reflection of our state of mind at the time, the quality of our current relationship or the way we feel about our bodies on a particular day. Clearly, there’s more than hormones raging out of control here. Beautiful, tender love-making also entices and influences our emotions.
So when you are in the mood for sex, do you ever think about why you truly want it? Is it because:
• You are in love and want to express it physically?
• You are so turned on in the moment, and a heady desire overwhelms you? (more…)
Sex is the Best Way to Boost Happiness
Making love boosts happiness more than anything else, a new research has found. The “Mappiness” project, which was run by researcher George MacKerron in conjunction with the London School of Economics, asked more than 45,000 Apple smart users to record their activity, location and happiness up to five times a day via a special application.
They received more than three million responses over more than a year and the results were fed into a so-called hedonimeter that tracked the nation`s mood minute by minute. The researchers found that Christmas Day was the happiest day of the year and people were the most content at 1.50 pm on 25th December.
They also found that there was a spike in Britain`s happiness on the day of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge`s wedding on 29th April, but people were at their lowest ebb on 31st January, at 8 pm. (more…)
Why Men Love Sex, Women Love Food
A new study has found it’s wrong to believe that men think about sex every seven seconds but, of course, they do think of it more than women do, as the latter think more about food than sex, says a new study.
According to psychologists from Ohio University, the oft-repeated seven seconds statistic about men is just a myth, as it would mean men thinking about sex 8,000 times during a waking day, the Daily Express reported.
The study of young adult men and women revealed that men thought about sex on an average 19 times a day. Some of the men, however, recorded 388 sexual thoughts a day. (more…)
Friendship – Best Basis for Relationships
When members of the opposite sex meet for the first time and there is an attraction, the parties seem to see each other in a seemingly perfect light, the other person can do no wrong and the likeness level is very high. This period can last for a long as well as short period of time, after which they start to see each other just the way they are, true colours begin to manifest themselves and the other person becomes human so to speak.
For those relationships that were formed on other factors apart from friendship, they tend to fail as soon as the novelty wears off especially if the appearance of the factor starts to dwindle. At such points, people start regretting the relationship because it dies out as quickly as it sprang up. (more…)
Why Bad Sex is Equal to a Bad Relationship
Although many people refuse to understand the enormity of sexual dissatisfaction in relationships, the fact is that sexual compatibility and appetite is as important as any other aspect of a couple’s life together. Today, Dr. Pulkit Sharma, Clinical Psychologist and Psychoanalytical Therapist at Vimhans Hospital, Delhi, unravels the mystery of why bad sex is equal to a bad relationship.
Bad sex as a mirror of relationship crisis: In many couples who come for counseling with complaints of sexual intimacy, it is often seen that bad sex is just an expression of deep-seated issues in the relationship. Either one or both partners harbor rage, envy and resentment towards each other and this gets mirrored in their sex life. Since sexual intimacy involves opening up to the other person, these people resent it. In such cases a change is possible by working on emotional and psychological issues. (more…)
